They’re Going to Love You

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A NEW YORK TIMES BEST BOOK OF THE MONTH • A DECEMBER 2022 BELLETRIST BOOK CLUB PICK • A gripping novel set in the world of professional ballet, New York City during the AIDS crisis, and present-day Los Angeles. • “Beautiful…Howrey, a former dancer with the Joffrey Ballet, proves herself a talented choreographer in her own right…[A] finger-trap puzzle of a plot.”—New York Times Book Review

“They’re Going to Love You is my idea of a perfect book. It is about art, life, death, love, and family and it is beautifully and sharply written. I cried several times while reading it, and was sorry to let it go when I was done. I cannot recommend it enough.” —Jami Attenberg,  New York Times bestselling author of The Middlesteins and All This Could Be Yours

Throughout her childhood, Carlisle Martin got to see her father, Robert, for only a few precious weeks a year when she visited the brownstone apartment in Greenwich Village he shared with his partner, James. Brilliant but troubled, James gave Carlisle an education in all that he held dear in life—literature, music, and, most of all, dance.

Seduced by the heady pull of mentorship and hoping to follow in the footsteps of her mother—a former Balanchine ballerina—Carlisle’s aspiration to become a professional ballet dancer bloomed. But above all else, she longed to be asked to stay at the house on Bank Street, to be a part of Robert and James’s sophisticated world, even as the AIDS crisis brings devastation to their community. Instead, a passionate love affair created a rift between the family, with shattering consequences that reverberated for decades to come. Nineteen years later, when Carlisle receives a phone call that unravels the events of that fateful summer, she sees with new eyes how her younger self has informed the woman she’s become. 

They’re Going to Love You is a gripping and gorgeously written novel of heartbreaking intensity. With psychological precision and a masterfully revealed secret at its heart, it asks what it takes to be an artist in America, and the price of forgiveness, of ambition, and of love.A New York Times Editor’s Choice • Best Book of the Year: The New Yorker, Jezebel & BookRiot • A Millions Most Anticipated Book of the Year

“Beautiful…Howrey, a former dancer with the Joffrey Ballet, proves herself a talented choreographer in her own right…In this finger-trap puzzle of a plot, the pull of the past meets the pressures of the present as James summons her to the dying Robert’s bedside. The controlled performance is as grueling and gorgeous as a dance en pointe.”
—Alex Marzano-Lesnevich, New York Times Book Review

“Howrey’s writing is precise and eloquent, like finely tuned ballet, but above all, this soul-stirring novel is about love, loyalty and one’s lifelong relationship to art.”
—Seattle Times

“A beautiful and relatable portrait of a woman, her regrets, and her successes. As Howrey unflinchingly and honestly dives into the intricacies of relationships and the inevitable growing pains that come with life, she also mines her history as a ballet dancer to deliver an honest portrayal of the dance world, the realities of working artists, and the obstacles facing female choreographers, revealing real-world truths through a fictional setting.”
—NPR

“This book had a hold on me from the very beginning and didn’t let go…The writing is masterful and the story is completely absorbing.” 
—Jasmine Guillory, Today

“A poignant, searing, and rightly conflicted account of ballet’s past and present. Howrey, a former Joffrey Ballet dancer, constructs sentences and passages like only a true artist can, reflecting the pain and glory her characters feel. She masterfully choreographed her fictional world in a way that revived my own belief that art, whether in the discipline of dance or writing, can heal us—even when that art form is, itself, broken.” 
—Emily Leibert, Jezebel

“Aspiring ballerina Carlisle Martin reveres her father and his partner, former dancers who share a shabby-chic Greenwich Village apartment and the life in art she longs for. Then a perceived betrayal casts Carlisle from the couple’s charmed realm. A moving tale about dreams, disillusion, and the hard work of forging a self.”
—People magazine

“’What I did was forgivable,’ the narrator of this ruminative novel insists. Her offense, which brought about a rupture with her father years ago, is not immediately revealed. Now a former dancer trying to make it as a choreographer, she grapples with her father’s impending death by recalling wide-eyed adolescent visits to the Greenwich Village brownstone where he and his boyfriend nurtured gay artists at the height of the AIDS crisis. A lifelong sense that she is ‘no one’s best’ has resulted in a string of arm’s-length adult relationships, she realizes, but her careful arrangement of the final farewell produces a late drive toward love and reconciliation.”
—The New Yorker

“Carlisle comes from ballet people: her mother was a Balanchine ballerina; her father and his beloved partner, James, are Manhattan dance-world fixtures. In this subtle family novel by Meg Howrey (with a New York real-estate subplot), Dad’s Greenwich Village apartment is an obsession for his choreographer daughter—and the site of an error that leads to their estrangement.”
—New York magazine

“In this novel about a 43-year-old choreographer estranged from her father, the author skillfully arranges her characters’ betrayals and disappointments to portray a family stymied by its own silences, restrained to the point of cruelty.”
—New York Times, Editor’s Choice

“Deftly tackling issues like the nature of art, creative desire, family relationships, mortality, and the human need to be seen and validated, They’re Going to Love You is beautifully layered and unforgettable.”
—BuzzFeed

“For the daughter of ballet dancers, the saga of a familial rift and a Greenwich home inheritance come together in an elegant assemblée.”
—Vanity Fair

“Howrey, a former dancer with the Joffrey Ballet, brings an insider’s view of the discipline to this buzzy novel, which is about a young choreographer grappling with painful family memories.”
—New York Times

“A luminous chronicle of betrayal, sacrifice and creative ambition, framed by New York’s Aids crisis in the 1980s and some seriously complex family dynamics…By the book’s close, readers will be clamouring for an extra curtain call.”
—The Guardian

“An increasingly rich, complex tale of aspiration…The love affairs and familial estrangement are well-wrought and intriguing, but the finest aspect of this novel is the way Howrey captures the artistic process.”
—Minneapolis Star Tribune

“Although firmly set in ballet’s milieu, this is a story of relationships, of families that are formed and destroyed and repaired…This is a beautiful book.”
—Washington Independent Review of Books

“Howrey’s writing is honest and raw, touching on universal human—and dancer—truths: the process of realizing and forfeiting childhood dreams, the ways we grapple with our own areas of weakness, and the different forms that success can take. Through the author’s candid account of the realities of being a dance student, and later, a working artist in present-day America, They’re Going to Love You is sure to resonate.”
—Pointe Magazine

“They’re Going to Love You is a dance novel, but it is fundamentally a family drama that considers what makes relationships work and what makes them implode. The trappings of the dance world and Carlisle’s musings about her choreographic commissions form a rich tapestry…Howrey brings an artist’s discipline to language. Her prose is lyrical, smooth, and thoroughly enjoyable.” 
—The Millions

“Devastatingly poignant…A deeply intelligent tale of love, grief, family and forgiveness.”
—Marie Claire (UK)

“They’re Going to Love You is my idea of a perfect book. It is about art, life, death, love, and family and it is beautifully and sharply written. I cried several times while reading it, and was sorry to let it go when I was done. I cannot recommend it enough.”
—Jami Attenberg, New York Times bestselling author of The Middlesteins and All This Could Be Yours

“Meg Howrey’s They’re Going to Love You is swift and sinewy and intense—like the ballet dancers who populate it. It’s about vocation, longing, and complicated family love, and it’s guaranteed to make you weep.”
—Maile Meloy, author of Do Not Become Alarmed

“Reading this potent novel, I kept thinking of the Elvis Costello quote: ‘Writing about music is like dancing about architecture.’ In much the same way, dramatizing the dance world is no easy feat, and Meg Howrey has stuck the landing. They’re Going to Love You is a portrait of passion and beauty at its most electric and unflinching. You’re going to love this book.”
—Lauren Mechling, author of How Could She

“Howrey takes the purity of expression in dance and imbues it with all the messy subtleties of great writing to create something new and exquisite. An elegant and deeply affecting tale.”
—Steven Rowley, author of The Guncle

“They’re Going to Love You is a devastating and revealing look behind the scenes at the true cost of art—creating it, quitting it, making a life of it. Howrey’s moving, taut prose has captured the sacredness and profanity of ballet, family, and of life itself.”
—Chloe Angyal, author of Turning Pointe

“Muscular and graceful in equal measure, They’re Going to Love You, like the best fiction, contains everything on every page—a new story, constantly surprising, that in its specificity touches the universal line by line. Howrey’s writing is remarkable, and this novel is a soaring achievement and a total success.”
—Lacy Crawford, author of Notes on a Silencing

“They’re Going to Love You is a deeply beautiful book. A lot of writers dream of achieving something like this novel, where art and life and love all seem to be addressed in a way we haven’t read before. It acknowledges its forebears (Portrait of a Lady, for example) with a cultured lightness of touch and with a confidence to converse with novelists (and dancers) that have come before. Writing about dance and making it feel present, alive, and important must be among the trickiest of writerly skills! Meg Howrey choreographs fragile wisdom, passing time, parents and children and lovers and regrets and ambition elegantly and movingly.”
—Arthur Phillips, author of The Tragedy of Arthur

“As elegant, refined and layered as the best of ballets, this novel is a luminous, immersive reading experience. I was fully transported into a world of beauty, rigour, aesthetic and personal challenges. Compelling and captivating, I was unable to put it down.”
—Lisa Harding, author of Bright Burning Things

“Howrey goes back and forth between Carlisle’s present and her past…landing, like a flawless jeté, on the side of pitch-perfect poignancy. Howrey, a former dancer who joined the Joffrey Ballet when she was just a teenager, writes as movingly about the world of dance as any living author. Even better is her incisive and effortless writing about relationships—between parent and child, between queer lovers—in all their complex mess and beauty. ‘Agony is ordinary,’ thinks Carlisle—this novel is anything but.”
—Kirkus (starred review)

“A poignant family story of alienation, regret, and desire…Howrey expertly builds tension, leading the reader to feel alongside Carlisle both the draw of ballet and her anxiety about her reunion with her father. It’s a breathtaking performance.”
—Publishers Weekly (starred review)

“[A] novel about devotion, art, and love in many forms…Howrey’s prose invites readers to feel the emotion of each dance, beautifully translating physical and visual art onto the page…Howrey’s incisive character studies create a heart-wrenching story of love and loss.”
—Booklist (starred review)

“A breathtaking, heart-squeezing book about dance, family, and forgiveness.”
—Book Riot

“An unforgettable novel of scintillating beauty and heart-buckling pain about ballet, loyalty, forgiveness and the many forms of love…Meg Howrey’s writing is dazzlingly, mind-bendingly good…This gorgeous, heartbreaking novel movingly evokes family ties and betrayal, love and forgiveness.”
—Shelf Awareness

“A truly beautiful novel by this former dancer and consummate writer—elegant, perfectly poised. You’re going to love it.”
—Saga magazineMEG HOWREY is a former professional ballet dancer and actress. She is the author of the novels The Wanderers, The Cranes Dance, and Blind Sight, and a coauthor of the bestselling novel City of Dark Magic and of City of Lost Dreams, published under the pen name Magnus Flyte. Her nonfiction has appeared in Vogue and the Los Angeles Review of Books. She currently lives in Los Angeles.Gods

Feel what I feel.

Stand with your legs together, toes pointing forward. Open your hips so the backs of your knees are touching. Slide the heel of one foot in front of the other until it meets the toes. This is fifth position.

Under certain conditions (flexibility, training) your two feet will be firmly locked together: heel to toe and toe to heel. Your knees will be straight, your pelvis will sit squarely above your knees. It’s not natural but it is elegant. Da Vinci’s Vitruvian Man but pulled together and not human spreading all over the place.

Contained.

Fifth is a position to begin things from. Fifth is a frequent point of return. It’s also itself. Movement. Dance, even if it is still.

See what I see.

James is teaching class. He wears a soft T-shirt and a pair of loose sweatpants. The soles of his dance sneakers are split like ballet slippers so he can demonstrate a pointed toe more easily. He’s a little vain about his feet, their high arches.

“. . . And contain,” James says, as the dancers close their legs to fifth position. “. . . And contain.”

The class–at an Upper West Side New York City studio–is by invitation or introduction only and filled with professionals. I picture the dancers, spaced out along the barres lining three sides of the room. I see the additional freestanding barres in the center, a spot where I might have stood. I’m not there. This is part of a story that was told to me.

James is prowling the studio in his soft clothes, his soft shoes. Not prowling. Gliding. He doesn’t appear to scrutinize the dancers, but they’re aware of his gaze, mild but penetrating.

“. . . And contain,” he says.

The dancers think they know what he means by containment. He’s asking them to keep their upper bodies still and placed, to not let the motions of the legs disturb the carriage of the torso. To come firmly to fifth position and not rush through or blur the moment. James means a little more than that. He always means a little more. He raises his hand and says, “Thank you, Masha,” which is Masha’s cue to stop playing the Chopin mazurka she’s been plunking out with heavy-handed precision. Masha lifts her hands from the keyboard and picks up the New York Post.

James walks slowly to one of the center barres, where everyone in the room can see him.

“Containment,” says James, “is one of the things ballet gives us.” He takes fifth position on demi-pointe: heels raised, balancing. He’s not demonstrating technical perfection; he is middle-aged and wearing sneakers. He’s demonstrating intention.

James steps out of fifth position, impatient with his body. “Music tells us to move, to dance,” he says. “But when we are still within music, we absorb all of its power. We are its container. Not every movement needs to go out into the world. We can keep some for ourselves. Contained. Powerful.”

James smiles.

“Restraint,” he says. His voice confers full sensuality to the word. “Restraint.”

Such a subtle thing to describe. “Other side,” he says, with a nod to Masha, who rustles her paper down. The dancers turn and place their right hands on the barre. It’s still morning, still barre, but the dancers feel James has said something beautiful, or true, or deep. It’s why they’re here. Even when his words don’t make perfect sense, they create an atmosphere that is pleasurable. It’s nice to be reminded one is an artist, especially on a Monday, with a full week of rehearsals ahead and a weird pain in your hip.

James looks across the studio, scanning the dancers. To teach is to hope.

His gaze falls on Alex, although he doesn’t remember his name. The boy had been brought along by one of James’s regular students and introduced as “My friend visiting from Atlanta Ballet.”

James has been observing dancers, teaching dancers, a long time. His assessments are swift. He looks at Alex and thinks, Nice but stiff, maybe a late starter, the body is good but–

James stops. It’s been so long since he’s been surprised.

Imagine what I imagine.

Alex has been listening hard.

“Contained.”

“Being still within music.”

“Restraint.”

Something turns over in Alex’s mind, like a combination lock sliding into its last number.

He raises his heels, shifts his weight to the balls of his feet, recrosses his legs. He lifts his arms. He is still.

James watches.

The music plays. Masha vamps, giving the dancers time to find their balance, “find their center,” as they say.

What Alex finds is that his body has changed. Somehow, James’s words are within him. He understands he is a container. For music, for movement. These are things he can hold and control. It’s a small click of rightness that opens everything. He’s never felt like this without drugs.

This boy, this young man, did, in fact, come to ballet late and his love for it still embarrasses him. The culture, the music, the costumes, none of it is “for” him. He’s a straight man, a mixed-race American kid, a lower middle-class boy. He should be putting his coordination, his strength and flexibility, to use in some other field. Why should he prance around stage in makeup and tights, pretending to be a prince?

In his teens, he justified his obsession by calling it an escape, an opportunity, a place to meet hot girls. He could jump and he could turn. He was a boy; he got scholarships. Now, his career has started and he’s ambitious. He doesn’t understand why he’s also a little depressed. He doesn’t like the way he dances.

He wants it all to mean something. Ballet. His life, maybe.

Now, in James’s class, for the first time, he sees how he might make something. In stillness. With his body, which is not perfect, and his mind, which is a total shitshow. He’s twenty-two.

He’s beautiful. He’s making beauty.

He doesn’t feel like a man or a kid or a boy.

He feels like a god. “But not in an asshole way.” (This is what Alex tells me, when I hear his side of the story. Except for style and point of view, it’s the same as James’s version. If they were unreliable narrators, they were–in this–a perfect pair.)

James watches Alex feel like a god.

Perhaps a bar of light penetrates the speckled grime of a nearby window and goldens Alex’s cheek, his clavicle, a sinew of his raised arm. The features of his face are too harsh for conventional beauty, but everyone looks noble in chiaroscuro.

“Yes,” says James, nodding at the young man and raising a finger. “That’s exactly what I mean. Beautiful.”

Alex looks at James. Confirmation. He’s not crazy. What he feels is real and someone sees it. James.

James finds himself shaping the class around the young man, testing strengths and probing weaknesses. He watches his words take shape in the boy’s body. It’s one kind of power to understand, and another to bestow understanding. James feels something in his chest and notices that he’s happy. When class ends, he sits on a little chair in the corner for a few minutes, approachable. He accepts gratitude and exchanges gossip. Alex hangs back, wanting a little privacy. Later, he will tell James he was afraid he might embarrass himself, say something stupid. Words aren’t his thing. But when it’s just the two of them and James is looking at him with kindness and interest, he does his best.

“I learned more in the past ninety minutes than I’ve learned in my whole fucking life,” Alex says. “I’m going to be in New York for the summer. I want to, I mean, is there a way I can study with you? Is there a way, even, I don’t know if you coach privately or, maybe we could, I don’t know.”

What he wants to say is “I feel as if I’ve only now been born.”

“Yes,” says James, in just the right way. With gravity, with depth. “Let’s work together. All right.”

“I need–” Alex says, and then stops. He needs a lot. “I need someone to–” He can’t finish the sentence. It’s not that he needs help, although he does need that. But help has been given to him. He’s a man who wants to dance ballet, he’s had no trouble being seen. What he needs is for someone to help him see himself. He needs love. He needs a friend. He needs beauty. He needs someone to talk to him about art. He needs–

“I understand,” says James.

This is what I remember.

James is telling me about meeting Alex. We’re in our usual positions at Bank Street, where my father and James live. (I don’t live there, I visit.) Bank Street is what everyone calls the apartment, as if it were the only one on the block. It’s the parlor floor of a four-story brownstone, the apartment purchased in 1975 by my father with money from an inheritance. James sits at the piano in the large front room, and I’m perched nearby, on the rolling library steps that serve the tall bookcases by the windows. The steps don’t roll very well and have been much clawed by the cats.

I don’t live at Bank Street, have never done so, but in my heart, this is my home.

James and I are family and not. Teacher-student, and not.

Confidants, and not.

I could be his daughter, but I’m not.

My father and James have recently started using the word partner for each other. James used to say companion. I’ve never heard either one use boyfriend or lover. They’ve been together for twenty-three years.

I love James very much. I love my father too.

Or: my father, I love, and James I sort of want to be. Maybe I mean: have? I’m twenty-four.

I haven’t met Alex yet. I will soon.

“I’m not a young person anymore,” James says. He folds his arms and frowns at the keyboard. “At a certain point–and I’ve reached it–you realize your moment has passed. You won’t achieve those dreams of youth. You have to make new dreams. But I don’t have any new dreams.”

He plays a single note on the piano.

“It’s not about me,” he says. “It’s wanting the things I care about to continue. To give that to someone else. Otherwise, everything I care about dies with me.”

He plays a few chords. The piano needs tuning.

“That’s not quite true,” he says. “One wants another chance at things.”

I think I understand about wanting another chance at things, and I’m only twenty-four.

“Oh, Carlisle.” He almost smiles. “You know what’s more terrible than giving up a dream? To discover you haven’t.”

He might be crying.

“It’s not about this boy,” he says. “You do see that?”

And then–

“Is it worth it? All this–” He shuts his eyes. “All this wreckage.”

I’m not sure what he means by wreckage. Himself ? His career? His relationship with my father?

Perhaps he only means life.

Summons


It’s a shocking phone call. Not because it’s a surprise but because it’s so close to what I expected. Things never happen exactly the way you envision, but this really is James, saying that Robert’s health has been increasingly bad and now they’re nearing the end. It’s mostly a matter of making Robert as comfortable as possible. They are thinking in terms of weeks, not months.

Robert. My father.

Nearing the end. As comfortable as possible. Even the sound of James’s voice saying Oh, Carlisle. I had them all right. Perhaps not so remarkable. These are the things one says.

James apologizes for calling so early. It’s nine in the morning in New York, only six here in Los Angeles. I hadn’t imagined that part. Time. The body understands whether it’s morning or evening, but it doesn’t always recognize the past from the present. I’ve had feelings about this phone call, for years. My body has already had this conversation.

I ask if Robert wants to see me.

“He’s always wanted that,” says James, on a sigh. “Only he painted himself into a corner. But what does that matter now?”

When did it ever matter? Still, I think I understand. Robert wants me to forgive him, but also to have it understood our estrangement is all my fault. He wishes none of it had happened but wants to keep all the emotions he got to have. He wants–

“You know Robert,” James says.

It’s hard to tell if I understand my father’s nature or am projecting my own. I might know Robert because I’ve essentially become him. What’s bred in the bone.

James continues, thinking out plans. Robert’s still in the hospital. It will be better if I wait until he’s home and settled at Bank Street. Of course it will. Hospitals are infantilizing–the gowns, the pans. Robert would be at a disadvantage. Bank Street is the seat of their power. Which leaves me as a petitioner. One hopes to get into an enchanted kingdom, or to get out of it, if things go badly. You don’t visit an enchanted kingdom to forgive the sorcerers.

“I want it to go well,” James says. “Your meeting. There’s a sweet spot, with the medications. When he’s lucid but also sort of beatific. It’s the release from the pain.”

I think a deathbed reconciliation is probably a good arrangement for the dying, who are soon to be free of all burdens whether you assist them or not. It’s the living who need to stumble on, heaving from arm to arm the weight of all those wasted years and now grief too.

“Carlisle.” There’s a pause and for a moment I think I see James very clearly, standing by the small table at Bank Street, holding the phone. “I don’t know what happened,” James says. “I mean, he’s never told me exactly what went on between you. But I know whatever caused the break is not what kept it going. It’s him, it’s how he is. I don’t know if you can forgive him. I don’t know if you should. I’ll understand if you don’t want to come.”

I try to picture Robert, find his body in space and time. I feel a burning in my own chest, not in the heart but in the lungs, the ribs, spongy cartilage, bones. Bred in the bone. What’s bred in the bone will come out in the flesh. That’s from the Bible? Shakespeare?

Blood of my blood. Flesh of my flesh. I’m his daughter. He is my father.

I close my eyes.

“Of course, I will come,” I say. “Of course.”

Poulenc for Beginners


Bank Street. New York. Going to see my father and James.

It’s 1983. I’m ten, and on a plane.US

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Weight	10 oz
Dimensions	0.8300 × 5.0800 × 7.9400 in
Imprint	Anchor
Format	General Trade
ISBN-13	09780593468005
ISBN-10	0593468007
Author	Meg Howrey
Audience	General / adult
BISAC	FIC045000, FIC019000
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